A benign tumor has an outer layer of cancerous cells beyond which are regular cells (I Think). The Tumor must have some kind of boundary layer like a wall where somehow the cancerous cells can't affect any more normal cells outside the wall. A Benign Tumor I think can be inactive for many months; it might never grow anymore. Might it be that the cancer cells at this Benign Tumor Wall are inhibited from affecting any more cells? Could there be an Apoptosis shut-off inhibitor or a cell-death pathway shutting-off inhibitor in this case?
The primary difference between a benign tumor and a malignant tumor is that the former cannot metastasize; therefore they remain within the tissue boundaries.They grow slowly and are are not very de-differentiated thereby retaining some of the tissue organization.
Another point to be considered is that benign tumors do not cause vascularization (formation of blood vessels in the tumor tissue; triggered by secretion of VEGF), which also limits its growth.