I always wondered why gametes from two different species dont fuse together to form an offspring. eg a donkey (sperm) and a female dog (egg)
I know this is not possible but I'm just curious.
Daniel's answer excellently explains the issue in an understandable fashion, though you may have been looking for a more cell biological approach.
According to Immunological aspects of sperm receptors on the zona pellucida of mammalian eggs, 1976, Dunbar & Shivers, the egg cell has a receptor construction which is necessary for the sperm to attach. If the receptor is too different from what the sperm is built for (which will be the case in different species), it will not be able to attach and fertilise the egg.
The biological environment in every cell and tissue of your body is an extremely complex, tightly controlled system. There are tens of thousands of genes in a typical eukaryotic genome, and depending on tissue types and environmental conditions, these genes are turned on and off in a very controlled manner. There is regulation at every point in the flow of genetic information: nucleosome disruption to expose DNA; RNA transcription from the DNA; protein translation from the RNA; and in some cases, additional modifications of proteins or intermediate mRNAs. At early stages in development, regulation of RNA and protein levels is even more crucial than, say, when an organism is fully developed and healthy.
All living organisms share some basic building blocks--DNA, RNA, and proteins work pretty much the same in all of life (there are a few rare variations of the genetic code but the basic premise is identical). However, the way that specific genes, transcripts, and proteins work together to sustain life varies widely between different organisms.
For a very rough analogy, imagine you want to bake a batch of cookies. Then consider the three following scenarios.
The first example we can relate to two individuals of the same species mating. Of course there is natural variation in the population, but this doesn't typically lead to lethality during development. The second example we can relate to individuals of two related species (such as a horse and a donkey). Sometimes these matings can produce viable offspring, although these offspring are often sterile. The third example we can relate to individuals of two very divergent species (such as donkey and dog in your original question). The biological systems inside donkeys are just so different from those inside dogs that this mating cannot produce a viable offspring.
Admittedly this is a rough analogy, but hopefully is sheds some light on the issue.