I think it really depends on the level of detail and accuracy needed.
Giving a quick look on Google Scholar, it appears that indeed there is (or at least was) a belief that hippocampal networks could be reasonably modelled by Hopfield networks (e.g. see Neuromodulatory control of hippocampal
function: towards a model of Alzheimer’s disease by Menschik and Finkel, and its references). However, many of these papers are somewhat old (though this certainly does not invalidate them!) and computational neuroscience moves fairly fast.
So yes, to a certain extent, after reading some papers that corroborate it, it might appear that some macroscopic behaviour of CA3 neurons can be reproduced by Hopfield networks.
That being said, in more recent works, I have personally never seen anyone model biological neurons with such simple neurons, when cellular level accuracy is required (often it isn't). At least stochastic Hodgkin-Huxley or integrate-and-fire, for instance, are used, even if as point processes (so that it is a system of ODEs/SDEs, not PDEs/SPDEs). Even the neurons used in today's deep neural networks (which make no effort towards biophysical plausibility) are (or at least can be) more complex than sigmoiding a linear combination of inputs!
Also, for slightly larger scales, as you note, the connectivity structure is extremely unrealistic. (Just look at the histology!)
So anyway, it depends on the goal. For simple macroscopic, qualitative similarities it may suffice. But if the goal is biophysical accuracy of simulation then I would look at newer papers and see what they do.
Check out Synaptic mechanisms of pattern completion in the hippocampal CA3 network by Guzman et al.
As for your second question, just searching for papers on Hopfield networks finds a number of them. However, they appear to be largely computational or mathematical, rather than neuroscientific modelling papers.
Maybe others can find better ones though!
Disclaimer:
I am not in the field of hippocampal modelling nor have I worked much with Hopfield networks, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.
My suggestion is to do an extensive literature search, and post what you find as an answer here :)